The Lady of Paradise

By: Seyyed Ali Shahbaz

    "Paradise lies at the feet of the mother”, says a famous statement from Prophet Muhammad (SAWA) to emphasize the mother’s position in Islam, which as is evident by the words of God Almighty in the holy Qur’an, deserves, along with that of the father, the highest respect from the children, to the extent that Prophet Jesus (AS) says: "And (God has commanded me) to be good to my mother.” (19:32)

    The Words of the Exalted Creator are Manifest Truth without an iota of doubt, and so are the words of His Last and Greatest Messenger, one of whose famous epithets is "as-Sadeq” (the Truthful or Truth Personified). 

    And if the Prophet of Peace "who never goes astray and neither errs nor speaks of his own desire, but (whatever he says) it is revelation revealed” (53:2-4), were to hail his lone daughter and only surviving child as "Omm-e Abiha” (Mother of her [own] father), then what would be the position in the whole universe of that Lady, whom God Himself has called "Kowthar” or the Perennial Spring of Abundant Munificence. 

    "Indeed, We have granted you Kowthar; So pray to your Lord and offer sacrifice [a camel]; Indeed, it is your enemy who is without posterity."

     Now we understand why the Islamic Republic has designated the blessed 20th of Jamadi al-Akher, the auspicious birth anniversary of Hazrat Fatema Zahra (SA) as "Mother’s Day” and "Women’s Week”. 

     For Iran and for countries or communities striving to instill in the society the proper values for grooming devout daughters, virtuous wives, and model mothers, the paragon-par-excellence of feminine merits is the one and only Flawless Fatema (SA), and not any ordinary woman or an insignificant day the UN has chosen to supposedly honour mothers and women, without taking into consideration virtue, ethical perfection, chastity and feminine dignity. 

     Hadhrat Fatema (SA) needs no introduction. Thanks to the lofty status of the loyal wife of the Commander of the Faithful Imam Ali ibn Abi Taleb (AS) and the dedicated mother of Four Immaculate children – sons Imam Hasan (AS) and Imam Husain (AS) and daughters Hazrat Zainab (SA) and Hazrat Omm Kolthoum (SA) – all negative notions regarding daughters were changed for good.

     For the first time in history, women found themselves placed on the pedestal of dignity and honour, since the laws of Islam neither allow the abuse and commercialization of women as objects of carnal desire, nor do they impose excessive burden on the parents regarding dowry. At the same time, women have the right to education, own property, and chose the spouse.

     The Hijab grants women freedom and liberty in the real sense of these terms, and with it dignity and respect in society that gives meaning to life. As the other half of mankind, it is the virtuous wife, who in addition to providing peace and solace to her husband, plays the fundamental role of mother in building a sound and healthy society by bringing up children in the proper manner on the basis of faith and moral values – factors that rule out immorality and with it any agonizing thoughts for parents.
     In view of these undeniable facts, it was the habit of Prophet Muhammad (SAWA) as the "Excellent Exemplar” to all mankind, to salute Hazrat Fatema (SA) every morning at the time of the Fajr Prayer. He practically demonstrated the lofty position of women in Islam. He used to stand to his feet whenever his Immaculate Daughter entered his presence, and in order to show her prime position, he would make her sit in his own place.

     This was not the doting of a middle aged father, but the commandment of God Almighty to make manifest the unique position of Hazrat Fatema (SA), the Pride of the Virgin Mary.

     No wonder, the famous philosopher-poet of the Subcontinent, Mohammad Eqbal Lahori, in his ode in Persian to the Lady of Paradise who will lead the virtuous into heaven on the Day of Resurrection, says:

"Maryam az yek nisbat-e-Eisa azeez; Az seh nisbat Hazrat-e Zahra azeez.”
(Mary is honoured for being Jesus’s mother; while Zahra’s honour is threefold).
"Noor-e chashm-e Rahmat-al-lil alamin; Aan Imam-e awwalin va-akherin.
(Daughter of Mercy unto the Creation; The Leader of the first to the last).
Banu-e aan tajdar-e Hal Ata; Murtaza, Mushkil kusha Sher-e Khoda.”
(Wife of the one crowned with Surah Hal Ata; The Chosen one, Panacea of all problems, Lion of God)
"Madar-e aan markaz-e parkaar-e ishq; Madar-e aan Karwan Salaar-e ishq.”
(Mother of that centre of devotion; Mother of chief of the caravan of devotion)
"Ta nashinad atash-e paykaar-o keen; Pusht-e pa zad bar sar-e taj-o nagin.”
(To snuff out the hatred of strife; He kicked the throne and the crown aside)
"Wa aan digar mowla-e abraar-e jahaan; Quwwat-e bazu-e ahraar-e-jahan
(The other (son) is leader of the pious; Strength of revolutionaries of the world)
Dar nawa-e zindagi soz az Husain; Ahl-e haq hurriyat amoz az Husain
Husain gives passion to ode of life; Teaching truthful the lessons of freedom)
"Seerat-e farzandaha az ummahaat; Jawhar-e sidq-o safa az ummahaat
(Mothers mold characters of sons; Mothers give essence of truth and honesty)
"Mazra-e tasleem ra hasel Batoul; Madaraan ra uswa-e kamel Batoul
(Batoul is the epitome of devotion; For mothers she is the perfect example).

Lady Mary in the Qur’an

In the following talk, Hujjat al-Islam Dr Mohammad Ali Shomali presents the Muslim’s understanding of Lady Mary in Islam, based on the verses of the Holy Qur’an ‘

In the Name of God, the Compassionate, the Merciful

After listening to the previous presentation we are truly spiritually prepared and attuned, albeit it is difficult to reach the same height. As you know, Lady Mary is greatly praised in the Qur’an and is the only woman mentioned in the Qur’an by name. Indeed, the Qur’an makes references to other women, like the wife of Pharaoh and the mother of Ishmael; however, no other woman is cited by name. Lady Mary has been mentioned thirty-four times in the Qur’an; sometimes alone and sometimes along with Jesus, “Isa Ibn-e-Maryam: Jesus the son of Mary.” Moreover, although her story is divided into many different chapters, a chapter in the Qur’an is called Mary, indicating her special position. Furthermore, the characteristics that we find for Lady Mary in the Qur’an are very special, to the extent that the Qur’an says that God chose her over all the women of the world. Thus, in that age she was the best woman. It may also be true regarding other ages, but certainly in her age she was chosen over all women.

I would like to mention characteristics that we find for Lady Mary. The first characteristic is that her upbringing was very special. Lady Mary’s father, and perhaps her mother, had a dream that they would be given a special son, which was Jesus^(a). Since they thought it would be the immediate child and not grandchild, they were expecting a son. Thus, Lady Mary’s mother made a vow when she was pregnant to dedicate her child to God. She said,

“‘My Lord, I dedicate to You in consecration what is in my belly (3:35).’”

“My Lord, I am making the vow to dedicate what is in my womb to you.” At that time it was a practice to dedicate your child to serve in the temple. However, when Lady Mary’s mother delivered the baby she was surprised to see that it was a girl. Nonetheless, she still wanted to keep the promise a sit was uncommon to dedicate girls to the temple. The temple was for men.  

One significant point that drew my attention about two or three months ago was that when the mother of Lady Mary dedicated her to God, the Qur’an says that God accepted her vow.

“There upon her Lord accepted her with a gracious acceptance (3:37).”

Her Lord accepted in a good way, a good acceptance, wa anbataha, and made her grow up, wa kafalaha Zakariyyah.

“And made her grow up in a worthy fashion, and He charged Zechariah with her care (3:37).”

God made prophet Zakariyyah^(a) (Zechariah), to be in charge of her upbringing. The point that came to my mind a few months ago, which I am still trying to digest, is that as a father or mother we always want our child, for example, to be very good, pious, spiritual, and dedicated to God. However, we are only part of this. The main thing is the relation between the child and God. I cannot decide how my child is going to be. Although I can pray, I cannot decide. Nevertheless, because the mother of Lady Mary offered her when she was unborn or was just born but did not yet have free will and was a little child, God accepted her at that time and undertook her upbringing. Consequently, I think this somehow solves the problem in the sense that if you can manage to make this deal with God when your child is still unborn or it is very early and God accepts to become the guardian of your child, I think then it is guaranteed. Making God accept is a matter of your full trust and dedication to God. God says that Lady Mary’s mother said, “Please accept her,” and God says taqabbalaha,“God accepted her and made her grow up and made Zechariah^(a)look after her.” It is impossible for someone to be accepted by God and become grown by God and then become an evil person. Hence, in my view, this point provides a very good kind of hope for parents. When their child is not yet born, or when it is born but still very little, they can make this deal with God. If they ask Him to take care of their child and He accepts, then it is guaranteed.

Thus, from the time Lady Mary was in the womb of her mother and then afterwards, she was always under special divine care. Another important point is that God made one of His prophets look after her. In fact, this is also the gratitude of God. Since Lady Mary’s mother offered her as a servant to the temple, God makes His prophet her servant; he has to look after her. How grateful is God? Hence, Lady Mary grew up in a very special way and with full dedication to God under the protection and guidance of someone like Zechariah^(a). Indeed, she grew up so well that even Zechariah^(a), who was in charge of her upbringing, was surprised. Zechariah^(a) was just an instrument of God, but the growth of Mary was not decided by Zechariah^(a).Therefore, the Qur’an says that whenever Zechariah^(a) used to visit Mary in her place of worship he found there is food,

“Whenever Zechariah visited her in the sanctuary, he would find provisions with her (3:37).”

It must be noted that this did not happen just once or twice, but kullama; every time Zechariah^(a) visited Lady Mary there was some food. Perhaps the first few times he did not ask questions and maybe thought someone had brought them, but then finally he asked:  

 “He said, ‘O Mary, from where does this come for you (3:37)?’”

How does this come to you; where does this come from? Lady Mary replied that this comes from God. So, this shows that if God works through means it does not imply that the work will be limited by that person. Although Zechariah^(a)was responsible, the growth of Mary was more than what Zechariah^(a)could see happening. Therefore, she grew up and God especially asked her to be obedient, to prostrate, and to worship with the worshipers. A stage then came when God gave her the good news,

 “When the angels said, ‘O Mary, God gives you the good news of a Word from Him whose name is Messiah, Jesus son of Mary (3:45).”

This verse reveals that angels spoke to Lady Mary and she was in communication with them. As far as I know, no scholar would dispute the fact that she was muhaddath, a person who was spoken to. The angels said to her, “O Mary, truly God gives you the good news, the basharah, of a Word from Him, kalimatin minh, a word from Him. God could have said He is going to give a son or child; however, He says, “a Word from Him,” which is not a very common expression to use for human beings. Of course, we know that every creation of God is a word because the Qur’an often mentions words of God forcreation.

“Say, ‘If the sea were ink for the words of my Lord (18:109).’”

Although we know that every creation of God is a word of God, it is not very common to use the term for people. Nevertheless, God states here that Jesus is a Word from Him and his name is Messiah, ‘Isabni Maryam, Jesus the son of Mary,

 “Distinguished in the world and the Hereafter (3:45).”

He would be a person who has a high position in this world and the Hereafter,

“And one of those brought near [to God] (3:45).”

And he would be one of the people who are very near to God. Hence, this verse was a kind of preparation so Lady Mary was aware it was going to happen. She knew she was going to have this child, but it happened in a very miraculous way that perhaps never happened in history. As far as we know, only Adam had no father and mother. His example might be easier to understand because it is a complete intervention of God to create someone, whereas having just a mother and no father might be more difficult for people to digest. How can there be a divine act which also uses a human being to give creation? In a sense, this example is more difficult to comprehend. Consequently, as far as we know, this is the only time this has happened; the case of Adam has some similarities and some differences.  

Thus, when God decided to create Jesus^(a) through Lady Mary, we all have this story of the angel coming to Lady Mary, as stated in a beautiful but deep verse in the Qur’an. For many years I have pondered upon this verse. Lady Mary had gone to a private place; some say she went for prayer, while others say she wanted to have private time, perhaps to bathe. An angel then appeared in the form of a complete human being, not a half-body human being,

“And he became incarnate for her as a well-proportioned human (19:17).”

Lady Mary clearly did not expect any human being, especially a man to be in her private place. As a woman who was very careful about her chastity, she was greatly worried. The Qur’an says that Lady Mary said to the angel,

“She said, ‘I seek the protection of the All-beneficent from you, should you be God wary (19:18)!’”

“I seek refuge with God from you if you are a pious person.” She was asking God to give her refuge from him if he was a pious person. What did she mean? It seems that, first of all, no idea of sinning came to her mind; she was not such a woman who would think that this is a time that she can have a relation. That thought definitely did not come to her mind. The only thing that came to her mind was how to maintain her chastity; she asked God for help but perhaps saw in that person signs of piety, for I assume when an angel takes the form of a human being he looks like a pious person and not a mean person. So, that angel came in the form of a pious person and Lady Mary said, “I ask God to give me refuge,” and if you understand these things and are a pious person you should understand that I am now under the protection of God.” Thus, Satan would not be able to come here. It is a very special verse which I am still trying to understand because she should have said, “I ask God for protection,” and that is it. However, she said, “I ask God for protection if you are a pious person, ”which means if you understand such things and are a person who has this logic or approach. Hence, her chastity is greatly emphasised in the Qur’an.

 “Guarded her chastity (21:91, 66:12).”

Also, her obedience to God is mentioned,

“And shew as one of the obedient (66:12).”

 The Qur’an also states that angels spoke to her. It is alsomentioned that Lady Mary received sustenance from God and from Heaven directlyin the chapter 3:37.

Another aspect the Qur’an states about Lady Mary is that she was chosen, istafaki. Therefore, God chose her,

 “God has chosen you (3:42).”

Moreover, she was purified by God, which is another very importantQur’anic concept. For example, we  Muslims Shi’ah consider a verse in the Qur’an extremely dear to us. The verse is about the Ahlul Bayt^(a) (the family of prophetMuhammad^(s)) and the holy Imams. In verse 33 of Chapter 33 God says to the Household of the Prophet,

“Indeed God desires to repel all impurity from you, O People of the Household, and purify you with a thorough purification (33:33).”

God wants to remove all the impurities away from you and purify you a thorough purification. Thus, we believe that the Ahlul Bayt^(a) are purified. God states the same thing about Lady Mary, 

“And purified you (3:42).”

God purified you. In my understanding, for everyone, spirituality is a matter of seeking purity. However, there is a limit to what you can achieve; so you seek purity and you become purer, purer, and purer. Yet, a time comes that you can no longer go further. For example, you cannot avoid mistakes, forgetfulness, or thoughts which sometimes come to your mind. From that stage onwards it is only God who purifies. So, first we have seeking purity, tatahhur, then we have tathir purification. Lady Mary reached that level that she did her best and then God took over and from that stage it is only God. Wes till have to do lots of things, but a time comes when you are only in the hands of God. Hence, Lady Mary reached the level that she was only in the hands of God.

What is more, she was also siddiq, as the Qur’an says,

“And his mother was a truthful one (5:75).”

There are four foremost categories of people in the Qur’an:

 “The prophets and the truthful, the martyrs and the righteous (4:69).”

The four categories are to be righteous, salih, to be a witness, shahid, to besiddiq, truthful, and to be nabi, prophets and messengers. Lady Mary was siddiq, most truthful. Siddiq is very rarely used for people; I do not think it is used for any person who is not infallible because to be siddiq is more than to be truthful in one’s words. Siddiq means that one is completely in harmony with the truth. Not only does a siddiq tell the truth, but he or she also thinks truthfully, plans truthfully, and acts truthfully. Everything is done according to the truth, and Lady Mary was in such a condition.

So, these are some of the characteristics of Lady Mary that make her very special. Yet, we need to ask how we can bring these aspects to our life because the Qur’an states that she was a role model. A Quranic verse states that God gives two examples for believers: one is the wife of Pharaoh and one is Lady Mary. Therefore, Lady Mary is introduced as a role model for all believers, men and women. Perhaps we need to discuss more about how we can benefit from her life.

In addition to trying to move towards these virtues that we mentioned, I think one of the things that we find very special in the life of Lady Mary is that it seems she was, as her mother wanted, fully dedicated to God. You do not see any sense of ego, any sense of selfishness, or any sense of having plans for yourself, even good plans. Sometimes we have bad plans for ourselves; for example, we just want to be successful or enjoy our life physically, but sometimes we have good plans for ourselves; for example, I want to be a great scholar, I want to teach many people, and I want to write many books. However, even this good plan can still be selfish.

What we read in the story of Lady Mary brings to the mind that she was not thinking of anything for herself. She was totally empty from personhood as such; she was fully possessed by God. It can thus be said that not only did her mother dedicate her body and physical presence to the temple, but because her soul was accepted and was also dedicated to God, she became an instrument of God. It is not by accident that God chose Mary for His Word, for if there was anything personal or selfish there she could not receive the Word of God. Indeed, God saw maximum capacity in Lady Mary because there was the least of personhood, impurity or selfish ego. In my view, this is a great lesson for us. Although we can never become like Mary, we can move to that direction and try to be just a container for the will of God and for the word of God. We should be at the service of God and work for the plan of God, which in fact is the best plan for ourselves. If we dedicate ourselves to God and are an instrument for God, then that is the best thing. It is not that we are losing, but we are actually gaining more. Thank you.